Do you worry about how much sleep you’re getting or dread going to bed because you fear you’ll lie awake at night? You could be dealing with sleep anxiety – here’s how to cope.

There are few things more frustrating than not being able to get to sleep. Most of us will be familiar with those nights where, despite feeling absolutely exhausted, you end up spending the whole night tossing and turning, unable to switch off. In the end, you get so desperate that you start ‘counting down’ the hours until you have to wake up – working out how much sleep you would get if you were to fall asleep right at that very moment.

However, while most (if not all) of us will have endured these kinds of sleepless nights, for people with sleep anxiety, it’s an experience which can be a lot more common.

Known in extreme cases as somniphobia, sleep anxiety is typically defined as fear or anxiety around the thought of going to bed. Although it may sound confusing to people who haven’t experienced it – after all, you might ask, what’s so scary about going to sleep? – it’s actually surprisingly common, especially at a time when we’ve come to place so much onus on the value of sleep.

While for some people sleep anxiety manifests as a very specific fear of falling asleep (commonly triggered by a traumatic incident related to sleep), one of the most common forms of sleep anxiety is concern or worry over getting enough sleep in order to be able to cope with the demands of the following day.

Jemma Park, a sleep expert at peoplewhosleep.com, explains: “A common thought among sleep anxiety sufferers is that they are worried that they won’t be able to get the correct amount of sleep to cope with their next-day demands. These stressful thoughts can cause a fear of falling asleep.”

She continues: “The type of stress that you feel as you’re about to drift off may also stem from performance anxiety. If you’re constantly under pressure to deliver on a daily basis (be it at work or in your family), you may see sleep as an additional ‘needs to be perfect’ task.”

That last reason makes a lot of sense when we consider the rise of ‘sleep wellness’ over the last couple of years. It’s why a condition called ‘orthosomnia’ – sleep disruption caused by an obsession with recording a ‘perfect night’s sleep’ on a sleep tracker or app – has seen a massive surge. And while prioritising sleep isn’t a bad thing, the amount of pressure we place on sleep has left many of us worried about how we rest.

In this way, people with sleep anxiety may find themselves dreading going to bed – not because they fear the idea of being asleep, but because they’re worried about not getting enough sleep to function the next day. The irony of all this is that sleep anxiety can stop people from getting to sleep in the first place, creating a vicious cycle. 

However, while sleep anxiety can become a very disruptive and debilitating condition, there are also a number of things people can do to manage sleep anxiety and bring some of their fears under control.

“Sleep anxiety is in fact perfectly normal, and a perfect sleep routine doesn’t actually exist,” Park explains. “Just like any stress-related conditions, the key to ‘fixing it’ is to limit the number of stressors you have in your life.”

Although trying to cut down on the number of stressors you encounter on a daily basis may be pretty tricky at the moment (after all, we are in the middle of a global pandemic), there are a few things you can try to help calm your mind before bed and give yourself the best chance of falling asleep. 

With this in mind, we asked Park to share some of her top tips for managing sleep anxiety, from the best ways to destress at night to how to overcome the dread of bedtime. Here’s what she had to say.

1.Focus on calming yourself down before bed

Instead of worrying about how much sleep you’re going to get or whether your sleep will be of good quality, try to focus all your energy on calming yourself down. This way, even if you don’t end up getting the ‘perfect night’s sleep’ you planned, you’re still giving yourself the best opportunity to drift off.

“You could try yoga, meditation, sleep music or journaling,” Park suggests. “The aim is to slow your heart rate to signal to your nervous system that it’s time to calm down.”

2. Say goodbye to technology

We all know how detrimental technology use can be for our sleep cycle but using our phones before bed can also exacerbate anxiety, too.

“Insomnia preys on mobile phone usage before bed,” Park explains. “Not only can the blue light keep you awake, but an innocent scroll can heighten anxiety in a flash.”

If you find yourself obsessing over how many hours of sleep you’re getting, it might be worth getting rid of any clocks in your room, too (although not if you use them for an alarm!).

3.Stop the mental to-do lists

If you spend most of the night worrying about how you’re going to get everything done the next day, it might be time you started writing things down.

“If you know you like to visualise what’s going on in your day, get out a pen and paper and write those plans down before bed,” Park says. “Knowing they’ve been documented can help to ease your running mind.”

4.Make your room a sleep sanctuary

To counteract any negative associations with your bedroom that you might have developed as a result of your sleep anxiety, it’s a good idea to try and make the space feel really special.

“Giving your bedroom a little comfort lift can create excitement towards getting to sleep,” Park explains. “Update your linen or add a scent diffuser – make it plush!”

5.Tire yourself out with exercise

If you’re struggling to shake feelings of wakefulness when you’re trying to get to sleep, try to rid yourself of expendable energy earlier in the day.

“Even though it may not feel like it, we all have expendable energy at the end of the day, and this can trigger wakefulness later on. Go for a jog, hit the stairs or do high-knees for as long as possible – if you can do this out in the sunshine, that’s even better, because this allows your body clock to synchronize.”

6.Avoid stimulants

Not only can stimulants (such as coffee, alcohol and sugar) keep you awake at night, but they can also fuel your anxiety.

“If you want to prioritise sleep you need to lay off the stimulants,” Park says.

She continues: “However, if your coffee addiction calls – you’re human, we get it – make sure it’s not after 2pm.”

7.Nap for productivity

If you had a really bad night’s sleep the night before, there’s no harm in having a short nap to help you feel more refreshed.

“If last night’s sleep anxiety session kept you awake, it’s OK to take a 15-20 minute power nap,” Park explains. “While napping can’t replace a good night’s sleep, it can help improve your mood and cognitive performance.”

If you or someone you know is struggling with their sleep, you can check out the mental health charity Mind’s website or visit NHS Every Mind Matters.

For confidential support, you can also call the Samaritans in the UK on 116 123 or email [email protected].

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